What it means to be fully human is to strive to live by ideas and ideals
And not to measure your life by what you've attained in terms of your desires but
Those small moments of integrity, compassion, rationality... because in the end, the only way that we can measure the significance of our own lives
Is by valuing the lives of others
Fantasies have to be unrealistic
Because the moment, the second that you get what you seek, you don't, you can't want it anymore.
In order to exist, desire must have it's objects perpetually absent
It's not the 'it' that you want, it's the fantasy of 'it'
We are only truly happy when daydreaming about future happiness.
This is why we say: the hunt is sweeter than the kill, or: be careful what you wish for - not because you'll get it: because you're doomed not to want it once you do
Living by your wants will never make you happy.